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2009-10-14

"Please" Mom

Ever since I was a little girl, I've had crushes on men I couldn't get. It was always older men who would sweep me off my feet. Now this isn’t too unusual or bad at all, as some might have already exclaimed at my insolent words :)

My mom tells me, that it is something that almost every girl goes through at some point or the other. So to list my crushes - it was my Physics professor when I was 16 and then the director of my college when I was 18, a famous dance choreographer, not to forget the endless list of stars I lust after and the list goes on. Once I went to see a "Raas-leela" conducted by a famous troupe from Mathura - and you won’t believe it - I fell in love with the person playing the character of Lord Krishna, so much to the extent that I had pictures taken with him and kept them hidden in my books. My mom once pointed out that I fall for people who are in power and yes...she was absolutely right - I have even fancied Rahul Gandhi at some point too.

I remember, my friends hooting when my Physics professor picked me up to answer a certain question - and me turning beet-red - unable to find the right words to answer the question. I doted on him so much that I fell in love with his car too and would fabricate excuses just to get glimpses of him :D

Regardless of all I mentioned above, the purpose of my post is a rather selfish one.
This time I have my heart on something and I need your help to get it. Fortunately it’s not one of my professors or the to-be-President of a country...but it’s actually a thing. It’s a bag.......I know how ridiculous this might sound, but after trying all I could rather unsuccessfully, I’ve decided to resort to make a global appeal...No...Don’t get me wrong...I don’t need you to contribute to my bag fund - all I need from you is to go - tell my mom to give me her approval.

Let me explain: I am in love and love is actually not enough to describe what I feel right now. It has reached the point of devotion and reverence (yes - I am still talking about the bag). And it’s a bit expensive and as my Mom puts it - it’s disgustingly exorbitant and not worth the hard earned money of any human being. And the thing is – as childish and immature it may sound, but I don’t do the smallest thing without my Mom's approval, so my conscience is just not permitting me to go ahead this time also.

I have tried everything I could - request/beg/emotional blackmail....
Here are a few excerpts of our conversation:

Neha: Mummy pleaseeee approve...I beg of u...
Mummy: I've said no...Now its upto u
Neha: Mummy u know, I won’t buy it unless you say yes. You know how much I respect your approval. Atleast in return of the respect...approve
Mummy : I know u respect my advice so much and that’s why I can’t let you spend that much on a ....bag. You should rather invest that money in something like jewellery...or just save it.
Neha : Some girls don’t even bother talking to their moms’ about big decisions of their life like marriage…and I am dying for your permission to just buy a purse…could you want more
Mummy : Neha… you are literally trying to extract your “yes” from my mouth…but you know how I feel about it


So on and so forth...we have been going since the last 2 months. I have almost memorized the mom-pep talk ... you have no responsibilities right now…but later you will…and you need to learn to be economical…blah…blah…blah…
But as they is love is blind…and deaf… I have turned totally deaf to my Mom’s melodramatic speeches on this issue now…but I still can’t ignore them :)

So I request all you wonderful people to appeal to my Mom…to just give me a green signal… Please write to her on http://anjugandhi.wordpress.com/ and tell her how fortunate she is to have an exceptionally respectful daughter …and that she should just say... YES

I know a lot of mothers’ probably agree with my mom on this…but please don’t forget you are daughters first and try to remember the doll in the store that you were literally dying for… remember the longing? Remember the impatience?

32 comments:

  1. Hahaha....neha my sis...first of all tell me how much does it cost?
    lets do this..lets make it a 50-50 deal and let your brother get you 50% of this gift...I guess then your mom won't be disappointed....
    but honestly speaking...there are times when you would want to just go for it no matter what it costs but sometime in future you would regret for it...not that I am pulling your leg back or pushing your mom to give you permission...just that somethings are good to be craved and some to be possessed...

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  2. this is sheer emotinal blackmailing
    I am indeed very lucky to have you as a my daughter who still values my judgment and my permission.
    despite of the fact that you have been living in USA from last 4 years and have become independent both financially as well as emotionally. but I still have my reservations regarding that bag.
    1. as you say the bag is sooooooooo expensive .so for me it is a crime to invest in such a huge amount on just a bag

    2. you had so many infatuations and crushes but you knew they were beyond your reach . so u can think the same way for this also
    there are so many things in our life which we want but we are not able to get them. we have to compromise, sacrifice our desires and give in to financial pressures

    3 if you are asking me so many times and have asked for public sympathy and public support that means in your heart you also feel that to spend so much just on a bag is not fair

    4. lastly i will say just one thing
    you are a mature, grwon up and responsble person and you will take wise and rational decisions

    5 just remember this time it is this bag whose rate is beyond my imagination next time it is sure that it will be something different more expensive
    as we human being are a greeedy lot
    we always succumb to our greed and desires
    it is a never ending process
    lastly to use your dads professional terminology which he always uses in his notices
    " I HOPE WISE COUNCIL SHALL PREVAIL UPON YOU

    all the best

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  3. I loved your conversation with your mom!!! We have exact same conversations between my daughter and me !!! I feel in such cases you want her approval because you aren't sure yourself! You want it but feel it's a waste, and still want it badly, if she says yes it becomes okay to waste sometimes :)

    Your mom and you are so lucky to have each other :) Have fun!! May you have many such discussions, and may you continue to trust her advice and may she continue to have your trust ... I also read on her blog about how she started it on your advice!
    Warmest hugs to you both!!!

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  4. I loved your conversation with your mom!!! We have exact same conversations between my daughter and me !!! I feel in such cases you want her approval because you aren't sure yourself! You want it but feel it's a waste, and still want it badly, if she says yes it becomes okay to waste sometimes :)

    Your mom and you are so lucky to have each other :) Have fun!! May you have many such discussions, and may you continue to trust her advice and may she continue to have your trust ... I also read on her blog about how she started it on your advice!
    Warmest hugs to you both!!!

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  5. The first thing I was going to do after reading your post was go to your mom's blog, but then I read her comment and stopped right there!! Sorry.

    By the way, long time. How are you doing?

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  6. chal yaar jane de Neha...your mom is gonna keeeeeeeeeel me....idea dropped...she is right...today it is bag, tomorrow it can be something else and then something more....no no no...maan le yaar...jane de na....

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  7. Neha i guess you should forget abt that bag and take your moms advice ...:P

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  8. How much is it? Is it that big a deal?

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  9. such a sweet post...i love bags too...u need to buy , after mom's approval :) I shall tell anju :)

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  10. @ihm u've put it so correctly... if mom says yes...it becomes ok to splurge ...i wont feel bad then :)

    @Zeba dont get carried away by what my mom says... just ping her for me ...:):)

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  11. @shruti thanks shruti so much for understanding what i mean.. atleast someone knows what it feels like

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  12. This is nice...I like the way you used the new age media "blogging" to get permission from your mom.. Good luck!!!

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  13. ah, u want me to request ur mum, as we are namesakes, this may work in ur favour...what say? should I? :)

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  14. I did ping your mother earlier. Have you finally got it?

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  15. Did you manage to buy it?
    I am a bag person so I totally understand. Please Anju, let her have it. What is a bag compared to her happiness?

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  16. aww :) its so nice to read mom daughter have aconversation here ;)

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  17. I have made an appeal to your Mom. But I still agree with her. No point investing so much in a bag when you can have many other things in the same amount.

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  18. I can understand your mom's point of view. But you know sometimes a heart wants what it wants :) You are young for only so many years and you wanting your mom's permission for it is indeed sweet! Now it depends on how much your salary is...if its less than 2% of your salary I say go for it! I have had to sacrifice quite a few things cos I am not working and hate to spend my husbands money...but if you are earning and you think you will use this bag for a long time to come I think its ok. But you should definitely consult your mom and make her understand why you absolutely love it and sometimes how some frivolous things bring joy :)

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  19. Hi, Neha!

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    http://zillion2ndinnings.blogspot.com/2009/11/hi-friends-if-you-all-remember-it.html

    Enjoy! Cheers! :)

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  20. Emotional blackmail told in a very unlikely yet humorous fashion. I loved the concept and conversation with your mom. Yes, you have a lovely blog here along with a beautiful template. Have bookmarked your blog.

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  21. Emotional blackmail told in a very unlikely yet humorous fashion. I loved the concept and conversation with your mom. Yes, you have a lovely blog here along with a beautiful template. Have bookmarked your blog.

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  23. its been over a month now... wht news?? convinced your mom to let you buy the bag??
    "My mom once pointed out that I fall for people who are in power and yes...she was absolutely right ...".. so, this bag that you've set your eyes on.. is like the king/queen of bags ????? :P

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  25. Your blog keeps getting better and better! Your older articles are not as good as newer ones you have a lot more creativity and originality now keep it up!

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  26. OK I have written to her.. . . . .. . . .not to fall for pressure tactics.

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  27. 3 months since you wrote. this is not fair. you got your LV and now you have stopped writing.this is cheating. you appealed to so many to help you convince your mother. and she did get convinced but now you owe it to every body to bounce back once again in blogging world

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  28. when will mums stop insisting on spending all their money on gold *sigh*
    And when will mums and daughters learn to agree?

    P.S. I really like your blog

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  29. LOL :D I think I love this one best :))

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